I still don't really understand what happened, but I'm trying to see it as something that happened for the best. They do still really care about each other and want to stay friends and they haven't ruled out the possibility that they'll decide to get back together in the future. So we'll see what happens. It's too big a commitment to make if one or both aren't sure about it.

Lori that's remarkable about Rafi. I wonder if perhaps when they finally decided on marriage the reality was not what they or one of them expected? It's a shame that it has worked out this way.

I don't know how Karen's idea sounds to you, Patti, but it sounds good to me--a cozy little place to be together on the weekend without the headache of taking care of a bigger place. Maybe it doesn't make sense to get a bigger place now when you're not sure you want to move there. I understand your feelings about the move. On the other hand, I think the only thing that helps in these situations is when both people try to see things from the other person's point of view. You might not agree with it, but it could still be valid when you understand the way he thinks. It's so hard to find the middle ground sometimes! I'm like a little kid sometimes. I want to do things my way...

I'm feeling down right now. I told you all that my son Rafi got engaged to his girlfriend last month when they were in Barcelona. Well, yesterday he told me they broke up. I thought he was kidding at first. They've been together for about 5 years and seem so good together. I was in shock. I guess it could still change, but for now, that's the decision. He didn't want to go into much detail, so I don't really get what happened. I think it's something about her needing to figure some things out. I feel so bad for him. He really loves her.

I really don't want to move. It's Dave who keeps saying he is going to spend his time looking for just the right community down there so I'll be willing to drop everything and go. Last night though he was talking about a nice little one bedroom apartment with no cable and no internet. What on earth does he think I'm going to do down there? Not even be able to use my computer unless I go over the library across from his new office? I don't think so...........

He figures and I agree it will take time to learn about the areas available and so he'll get an apt. in the meantime. But I don't don't see myself going from 3 bedroom to 1. No dining room, no space, no yard. No way.

I'm not expecting the worst but I wish that Dave could understand that his desire for change and more cash in his war chest does not readily translate to me. I am a person of simpler desires, content with the good things I already see in my daily walk. I'm not overly worried about being financially solvent in retirement. I know he's got that covered and frankly I'm not looking for extra. With my physical liabilities I see "right now" as more of a focus point. He's already dropped his coming home every weekend concept and didn't come home until after 8 last night. Instead of a nice apartment or small house to rent where we could be comfortable together when I travel down there he's already talking about one bedroom apartments because they are cheaper. Again, he doesn't hear me when I talk about creating a nice home for us down there. Instead it's how cheaply can he get by. It's too bad we aren't hearing each other when we talk.

Karen your trip to Savannah sounds fabulous. A lovely area to be sure. You describe the area wonderfully. I could picture it in my mind and hear the music. Nice.

Let's just say that marriage is hard work....guess one has to decide if the payoff outweighs the options.

On Saturday, I walked in a 10k run/walk up at Camp Johnson. It was put on by the National Guard appropriately called Vermont Remembers. After the race, there was a BBQ and entertainment, games and activities for all the kids. It was very well participated in and I felt very rewarded doing the walk. My nephew started off walking with his "old" aunts but I let him go and run ahead. Everyone was impressed that he finished the race along with the other adults. He was the only 9 year old to do it. They had a seperate race for kids but he wanted to do this one for his dad. On a personal side, I passed a team of soldiers marching with their packs on singing in cadence...they were funny, cheering us on and after getting by there they started with the song "There she goes walking down the street...etc....made me walk faster just so they wouldn't be watching the body move!!! I think the 2 hour drive back home was the worse part....I got so stiff sitting in the car I could hardly move...not so bad this morning, thank goodness! I will definitely do this again next year...hopefully, it won't be on the wedding weekend!
I am so glad you feel good about leaving your son off at college, Karen. I think there is something to be said about the last one going off...you are happy for them and should be proud of the great job you have done!
Rained here yesterday for the first time in over a month. Think we might have showers off and on today too...let's hope we can take those little ones out for recess!!!
Have a great day everybody! Happy Monday......with Happy Thoughts.............